Communication Myths vs. Couple's Communication Facts
Does Couple's Communication work? What if I’ve already tried Marriage Counseling?
Not all approaches to marital/relationship challenges are the same. Philip Mulford has found that mediation has given him insight into why marriages/relationships fail and, as importantly, how communication impacts the relationship. With a forward looking approach, Mulford helps couples see that the way they have been communicating explains much about why they feel that their marriage isn't working. Mulford offers a different way of communicating that changes the relationship at its core.
What is so special about the way Mulford handles "couple's communication?"
Throughout his career as a mediator, Mulford's clients have expressed the wish that they had known sooner what he shares with them about the way we all communicate and what happens when we communicate diffently. Even divorcing spouses are well-served by changing the way they interact - primarily in the way they communicate - especially if they have children. Hearing comments like, "I wish we'd come here sooner, then perhaps divorce wouldn't be our only option," and "Why didn't anyone ever tell us?" has resulted in Mulford's decision to offer this information as an alternative.
What happens if we can’t talk to each other? We've tried to talk it through and it's no use?
If you don't want to give up, but you don't know what to do next - and any effort you make towards "fixing things" blows up in your face, then its time to try something different. When the act of talking is the problem, let Mulford show you why that is - you may be surprised to discover that the way you communicate is simply the way you were taught. It's not that you or your spouse are doing something "wrong," it's that the process you use often creates terrible results. Let Mulford help you set aside a communication process that fails for so many and lead you into a productive, pleasant, loving interaction whenever you communicate with your spouse in the future.
Don't we need to just find the time to sit down and work it out?
If you keep using a process that fails, then every time you "really try" - and fail again, you'll convince yourself that there's no hope. It's not the effort that's the problem, or the mutual desire to have a happy, loving relationship that gets in the way - it's that the tools we use are problematic. No matter how often or how long we try them, they'll fail becasue they never worked in the first place. We just got lucky that we managed as well as we did for so long with faulty tools of communication.